5 Things Your Guy Wished You Knew About Sex

Let's talk about sex!

Are you always wondering what your guy is thinking in the bedroom? It may not be what you think. Guys aren't usually great about sharing all their feels and starting a discussion about your sex life may not be the easiest thing to do. Lucky for you, we got down and dirty and found out the top 5 things your guy wished you knew about sex but that he won't just come out and tell you.

1. They want to know what you like and dislike

5 Things Your Guy Wished You Knew About Sex

Guys love positive reinforcement because most of them have absolutely no idea whether or not you're enjoying what they're doing. Let them know what's working and what's not, and if you feel comfortable enough, tell them exactly what you want. Most guys will happily take your notes and in the end, it's a win-win! 

2. Sometimes you should take control

5 Things Your Guy Wished You Knew About Sex

Guys don't always want to initiate. In fact, they will go nuts if you take things into your own hands - pun most definitely intended. Surprise him, be impulsive, pull him aside when he least expects it. I promise he will love every second of it and it will make the sex that much hotter.

3. Be open to trying new things 

5 Things Your Guy Wished You Knew About Sex

This does not mean you should do anything that makes you uncomfortable but at least be willing to explore some new options in the bedroom: new positions, toys, lingerie, etc. You always want to keep your sex life hot and exciting and exploring something new together is the best way to do that. Most guys will be happy you are even willing to discuss experimenting - communication is key in relationships and sex should be no different.

4. Maybe they just want to have sex

5 Things Your Guy Wished You Knew About Sex

While the act of making love should be a special, romantic experience sometimes guys just want to have sex. And 'just sex' doesn't necessarily mean rough or degrading, it means it doesn't always have to be mushy and intimate love making - it can be primal and aggressive. And that doesn't mean your guy loves you any less, but sometimes they want to have sex vs. making love and there is nothing wrong with a little quick and dirty every so often.

5. Guys want to cuddle too

5 Things Your Guy Wished You Knew About Sex

It's a common misconception that guys are totally against cuddling, it's just that most of them don't want to be screaming it from the rooftops. I know, "I LOVE CUDDLING AFTER SEX!" isn't the most masculine thing to publicly admit to but most guys want the post-sex intimacy the same way you do. So stop pretending you hate cuddling just to impress a guy, you're not doing yourself any favors and you're missing out on endless post-sex cuddle sessions.

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