6 Ways To Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness in 2016

Isn't it time?

Well, we made it! We are officially a week in 2016.

Granted, that's not very far into the new year, but we’re far enough in that resolutions have likely been made, goals have been set, and you’ve definitely recovered from that hangover that all that champagne on NYE gave you. Go you!

As we start this new year, with high hopes for ourselves and our lives, before we really get involved in the 2016, it’s time to take a step back, breathe, and look at the plans we’ve made for ourselves. Sometimes, even if we don’t realize it, we sabotage our chances at happiness even before the year swings into full gear. And, in doing so, by the time Spring rolls around, we’re standing there trying to figure out exactly what we’ve done (or haven’t done) that has prevented us from making strides toward happiness in our lives.

Well, what you’ve probably done is unknowingly sabotaged your happiness! So let’s try to undo that now before we get too far into 2016, shall we?

1. Realize the difference between realistic and unrealistic goals.

6 Ways To Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness in 2016

Whether you set goals at the beginning of every new year or the beginning of every new month, it’s important to set goals that are realistic. If you set goals for yourself that are so far out of the realm of possibility, you’re not just crushing your chances at happiness, but you’ll always be left disappointed. There’s nothing worse than perpetual disappointment.

2. Don’t compare your successes to those around you.

Everyone has a different idea of what constitutes success. For some people it’s something as small as getting to work every day on time for a week, while for others it’s scoring that big account and a promotion that will triple their salary—everyone has a different concept of what success means. In trying to conform your idea of success to how others measure success, is a sure fire way to unhappiness.

3. Love yourself before you try to love someone else.

6 Ways To Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness in 2016

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, the way to true happiness is loving yourself. If you can’t be happy with yourself, then you can’t be happy with anyone else. The happiest people in the world are those who haven’t just learned how to love themselves, but have learned to appreciate themselves, accept their flaws, and are totally content to roll solo and do things on their own terms.

4. Learn to quit while you’re ahead.

While this can definitely be applied to many scenarios, when it comes to being happy, don’t push it. For example, if it makes you happy that you finally paid off your credit card, a goal that you had set for yourself, don’t think it will make you even happier to open a new credit card and start racking up credit again. When you’re ahead, stay there; don’t mess with a good thing.

5. Understand the power of saying “no.”

6 Ways To Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness in 2016

Far too many people go through life grinning and bearing it. In other words, they don’t have the backbone to say “no.” If you’re not into something, don’t approve of something, or straight-up think that something sucks, then say it. In going along with the masses and nodding yes, you’re just going to make yourself miserable.

6. Never settle for second best.

You know the quickest way to sabotage your happiness? By settling. Even before 2016 started, you had an idea of what you wanted to tackle, accomplish, and achieve, right? In not doing all you can to reach those (realistic) expectations you have for yourself, you’re just condemning yourself to an entire year of disappointment. Don’t do that. Instead, keep your eye on the ball and don’t settle. There’s nothing sadder than someone who sells themselves short, because somewhere along the line they decided being runner-up was an OK place to be. Fun fact: It’s not. No one wants to be runner-up.