"For the past six years, I have been happily coupled with a man who is so easy for me to be with, laugh with, be silly with, and much more. I think one of the biggest lessons I learned just before we met is that first date jitters were often a sign that I was putting too much expectation into the date. I wasn’t focused on having fun and being myself, nor was I thinking about what I wanted to learn about him. I was obsessing over whether he would like me and how I might 'make him' do that. This suggested I was looking for approval — typically from someone I barely knew!"