As twenty-somethings, we feel so much pressure to be these perfect human beings who have our lives and relationships and careers and bodies all kinds of figured out by the time we hit a certain age. But guess what? No one around us has it figured out. People twenty years older than us don’t have it figured out.
As a generation, millenials are the ones who will change the game. We just have to give ourselves the chance. And as a twenty-something, fake it till you make it long enough, and even if you don’t “make it” in the way you expected, you will find your way.
Or maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll realize you prefer being a little lost. Maybe in the process of being lost, you’ll come up with an idea for your own company, app, blog, website, or life and/or career move. Maybe you’ll pick up and move to another city; maybe you’ll drop everything and take off to travel the globe.
Whatever happens, along the way you’ll be sure to realize that you really can never read enough lifestyle content about millenials. (Ha, ha.) But if you don’t feel so sure about the feeling lost and wandering unsure through life bit, read on, wanderer: I’m here to make you feel better about being a hot mess in your 20’s.
Because life should be messy.
No one else around you has it figured out either, and guess what? While everyone else is looking to each other and comparing and contrasting lives and boyfriends and careers, you’re figuring out what you actually want. You know, so you won’t wake up in your 30’s hating life – and looking back with regrets.
You won’t know what you really want without experimenting a little. Or a lot.
I’m a fan of the philosophy that you should do what you want.
When you give in to the sensation of being lost, you’ll realize it’s not so bad after all.
It’s actually pretty enjoyable, if you buy into the whole “journey, not destination” shtick. Or if you’re just into living out your wanderlust to the fullest – both in your everyday life and in your travels. There’s no need to figure out which way to go right at this very moment.
And hey, just because you’re not on the right path, doesn’t mean it would hurt to just, you know, stumble over in that general direction.
Just because they’re someone else’s #lifegoals, doesn’t mean they have to be yours.
Or relationship goals, or squad goals, or whatever else.
It’s what’s expected of us.
Not that you should be caught up in others’ expectations of you (far be it for me to EVER tell you that), but there’s a freedom in the expectation that at this time in your life, you won’t and don’t have to have things all figured out just yet.
You’re young enough to be spontaneous, but old enough to enjoy the planning process.
This is honestly my favorite part of being in my mid-twenties – recognizing the extent of my preferences when it comes to, well, everything good in life. Travels, exercise, diet and fitness, how much I can reasonably spend on shoes and festivals and dyeing my hair rainbow colors (it’s more expensive than you might think) – and figuring out how to incorporate those into my lifestyle while still being a responsible and productive member of society. Most of the time, anyway.
Basically, creating a life for yourself in which you have the freedom not only to do what you love, but to do what you want to do, when you want to do it. #adulting
Making mistakes is what helps you grow.
You live, you learn, you experience, you grow, you fall and bruise your knees, and then you get back up again. Once you get used to the fact that your heart will not make it through your twenties without a couple scars – and in fact, it’s not supposed to – you can make more informed decisions for your future, armed with the knowledge of what you really do want.