How to Stop Holding Yourself Back
Talk yourself out of keeping up those bad habits that are only gonna hold you back.
All too often, we get caught up in cycles of negative energy that we might not even realize are holding us back in life. Whether we're doing these things consciously or unconsciously, it's not fair to ourselves to keep up any bad habits or patterns that will ultimately only keep us from realizing our full potential.
Block out negative energy.
Realize that harboring negativity in your mental and emotional space is just as much a bad habit as any physical one. You have to fully disengage yourself from it; it's not going to go away on its own. So try to break free of those bad habits – they form a cycle you can choose to step away from.
Don't be afraid of your own vulnerability.
Our emotions aren't really the scary thing; it's our fear that they will control us.
Remember: Judgment often comes from a place of insecurity.
Don't let others' opinions of you affect your opinion of yourself. Letting these negative thoughts and perceptions color your own self-worth is not a habit worth continuing. The more energy you devote to it, the more you unconsciously build it up in your head until you believe it's the truth. Don't waste any more valuable time breaking yourself down when you could instead be building yourself back up.
Your perceptions shape your reality. Change your perceptions, change your reality.
Alternately, surround yourself with good vibes and good people, and that energy will make a direct transference to you. However, it's not necessary to make a change; if you might not feel like you have those people in your life right now, just remember that positive change starts with you. Though it's nice to have company, you really don't need anyone to grow but yourself.
Besides, I strongly believe that once you start working on improving yourself, and focusing on growing and changing for the better, you'll attract the right people into your life.
Instead of telling yourself why you can't, tell yourself why you can.
Imagine if all the energy you have funneled into hating on yourself instead went in the other direction. You could move mountains! Change the course of rivers! Turn back time! Okay, so you're not Superwoman, but still – think of how much more you could accomplish if you stopped getting in your own way. Sounds simple, right? Maybe not – but great things take time, and it's perfectly okay to take it day by day.
Quit the self-sh*t talk.
Seriously. We're over hearing girls (and guys) inflict all kinds of deprecating self-talk on themselves. Treat yourself like you would a friend. Part of that is engaging in positive self-talk. It may seem cheesy at first – but who says you have to make it cheesy? Keep it real with yourself. Not a fan of what you'd consider kooky positive affirmations or spiritual mantras? Instead, tell yourself that today you're going to slay. Either that, or give yourself a gentle little reminder to stop criticizing your own appearance, path, or whatever it is you can't help comparing to someone else's.
Would you tell a friend she looks fat today? Of course not. Then why are you convinced that your own thighs have magically grown overnight? C'mon, now. You're better than this. #Ain'tNobodyGotTime
And as for comparing your path to someone else's journey, please do yourself a favor and stop doing that. Jealousy leaves no room for self-growth, and perpetuates the same negative energy you're trying to let go of.